Note: I plan to do a continuation of this article from a perspective of women and their media image.
Two weeks ago, a scene happened that made the entire tv portion of the fandom. In the altar of the mother, Cersei weeps for her dead son, Joffrey. Jamie is uncomfortable when she continues to keep calling him “our boy”, as he had no actual role in raising Joffrey. After Cersei begs him to avenge their son, he pulls her in his arms and soon after, they kiss. However, once Cersei sees his golden hand,she recoils in digest. Jamie gets angry, calls her “A hateful women” and asks why the gods made him love her. He kisses her and tries to initiate sex,but Cersei repeatedly asks him to stop and claims that it’s not right. Towards the end,she tries to cling to her sash and the altar.
This isn’t rape and “Oathkeeper” wasn’t about restoring Jamie’s character, either. GRRM states that in the books that it’s 100% consensual. If Jamie didn’t arrive until Cersei was weeping over her son’s body,then there was no fight, no rejection or anger on either party. The show changed things drastically and Brienne was locked up until Jamie freed her. Jamie has grown as a character,people are just misinterpreting the scene entirely too much. It’s gross, but it’s disturbing because it’s by their child’s corpse, not because it’s rape.
The show has shown rape several times,but never an actual scene. We don’t see Brienne as she screams during her captivity and the Dothraki who were raping the enemy’s women were completely in the background. The show doesn’t have as much misogyny as people think it does,even if there’s violence against women. Joffrey beat Sansa and killed Ros because he was an asexual sadist who enjoyed beatings and torture. Talisa was killed on the show(not the books) because she was why Robb broke the deal, not because hurting pregnant women is okay. As much as I despised the scene and freaked out,I did understand the reasoning behind it. It was to devastate Robb and show him what choosing love cost him.
They weren’t particular about raping Craster’s daughters either, aside from that one scene. Even then,it was shown because the watchmen who killed Mormont were crazy. If anything, this scene,as well as the one with drinking trough a skull was what we should have focused on. The men get tortured as well and Game of Thrones is popular because it’s darker and grittier than other fantasy shows. It’s also on HBO, which is why we see so many boobs and asses.
In a show where someone gets their penis cut off, a pregnant woman gets murdered, children get burned alive and an animal’s head gets sown onto the body of his master’s corpse,can we just go back to watching? It’s nothing new and if we survived the Red Wedding, we survived the worst of it. The actors are ambivalent for the same reason a lot of people are. If it’s based on source material, then ultimately, it’s not rape. You can’t get angry with them for questioning something that they were told is consensual. Yes,it was creepy and disturbing,but even though the show changed the storyline, the scene’s intent never did.